SARAH: “Hey girl, I need your help.  I just lost my job and I know you have some connections.  Plus, my husband has gotten really abusive.  I need to get out of this situation, asap.”

SUZY:  “Okay, I’ll help you.  You know I got your back.”

SARAH:  “Thanks! I love you.”

SUZY:  “Love you too.”

Two months later.

SARAH:  “Hey girl, it’s me again.”

SUZY:  “I haven’t heard from you in a while.  Seems like you only call me when you need my help.”

SARAH:  “I know, I know.  I am so sorry for not taking your advice.  I went back to my husband.  I know you said that would be a bad idea.  But I was lonely.  Now it seems like he’s even worst.  Can you please buy me a plane ticket to get out of here?  I am tired of this.”

SUZY:  “Okay, I’ll help you.”

SARAH:  “Thank you SO much! I love you!”

SUZY:  “Love you too.”

6 months later.

SARAH:  “Hey girl, it’s me.”

SUZY:  “Hey.”

SARAH:  “I know it’s been a while.  I appreciate all that you do.  I know that I keep going back to the same problems.  I promise I won’t do it again.  This is getting crazier by the minute.  Can you help me?”

SUZY:  “Once I help you, you always go right back.”

SARAH:  “I know,  it won’t happen again.  I’m done!” [crying]  “I’m so sincere.”

SUZY:  “Okay.  I’ll help you.”

SARAH:  “Thank you! I love you!!”

SUZY:  “Love you too.”

How many of you would stop helping?   How many of you are thinking ‘Suzy is crazy.  Sarah keeps using her.  Obviously Sarah isn’t being honest’?  A lot of us go through this same scenario with God.  He delivers us out of certain situations and we go right back.  The Bible tells us in Matthew 12:43-45; 43 “When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. 44 Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. 45 Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation.” NIV.

When God delivers you from something, do not go back.  Each time you go back , it gets worst.  God has so much compassion for us that He will come to the rescue.  Even though He doesn’t come when we want Him, He’s always on time.  Human beings become irritated when some one only calls in times of trouble.  We’re quick to tell some one “I’m tired of you using me”.  Imagine if God told us “I’m tired of YOU using ME.”


Supposedly the world has discovered a “homosexual” or “gay” gene. This type of thinking has led more and more people to believe they were born gay. The Bible tells us that “my people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee…” Hosea 4:6. Human beings are not born gay. How do we know that? Well, let’s look at what the word of God tells us. I Corinthians 6:9-10 says, “9Know yet not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators [the sexual immoral], nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate [homosexuals], nor abusers [sodomites] of themselves with mankind, 10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.” Why would God make you gay and then send you to hell for it? The answer is, He wouldn’t. God can not sin. Let me repeat that, God CAN NOT sin. The Bible speaks on homosexuality as a sin several times. Leviticus 18:22, “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.” Jude 7 states, “Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire”. “God is not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man that he should repent:” Number 23:19. Since God’s word is telling us that homosexuality is wrong, who are you going to believe? God who can’t lie, or man?

I am usually asked the question about how to abstain until marriage.  Yes, I do want people to wait until they’re married to have sex but what do you do if you never get married?  Many people look ahead and think “If I could only make it until I get married!”.  This is the wrong way to go about things.  The goal should be to abstain.  The Bible says to “flee fornication” I Corinthians 6:18.  When or if you get married, you should be and feel complete.  When God made you, He made you a whole person.  He didn’t make you a half of a person.  Mark 10:8 “And they twain [two] shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain [two], but one flesh”.   Marriage takes two whole people and bring them together as one. Your husband or wife should add to you, not fill a void that God was supposed to be filling.  Be happy!  God made me complete, how about you? =]

Why are soul ties so dangerous?

First let’s define what a soul tie is.  A soul tie is two souls being joined together.  A soul tie can be formed through sex or through a close relationship or friendship.  Soul ties can turn dangerous depending on who it’s formed with.  Spirits will transfer from one person to the other.  Have you ever caught yourself saying things they say? Or all of a sudden eating foods that they normally like?  Soul tie.  A soul tie can be used to bring demonic activity into your life.  I recently had to step away from face book and    due to this particular reason.  The spirits that transferred during fornication tormented me day and night.  I was on the brink of losing my mind but God stepped in in the nick of time and freed me.  After that experience I realized how much of a blessing it is to have a “right” mind.  Don’t allow the devil the use soul ties to bring forth your demise.


Q.    The different categories of lust
A.     Lust is defined by as “a passionate or overmastering desire or craving” and “to have a yearning or desire; have a strong or excessive craving”.  So some one can have a lust for money, power, attention, etc.  Lust doesn’t always mean sexually.  As far as categories, there are none.

Q.     Christians listening to worldly R & B music
A.      I believe it depends on the lyrics.  You definitely shouldn’t listen to anything that is telling you it’s okay to commit certain sins.  It all comes down to having a spirit of discernment.  Once you hear a song, you should instantly know if it’s “enticing” your flesh.  And if it is, stop listening to it.

Why is sexual sin so “difficult” for people to stop?

Sex is everywhere! The world wants us to think that it’s not a big deal. The enemy uses the media to show us that sex is supposed to be “for everyone” even if unmarried. Satan is still using the same trick that he used in the Garden of Eden. He tells us that God is withholding something good from us and in actuality all God is trying to do is protect us. Everything that God does is for our good.
Fornication is a sin that appeases the flesh. It’s like marijuana, it temporary takes away the problems that you are facing, but once the act is over, the problems are still there. People use sex as a method to get rid of stress, to feel like some one desires them, because they’re bored, to prove a point, to show their manhood or womanhood, because of peer pressure, the list goes on. Fornication is a deadly sin but Satan wants people to believe “its not that serious”. Sounds just like the Garden of Eden huh?


Q.     A list of of material or books to order or study with church youth on these topics or even buy for them to read on their own, we did true love waits with them and had study and spoken on lust topics but wanted to know if you guys know of more resources
A.      I had a give away a few months ago. I gave away “Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey. It also includes a workbook. For the ladies, “No Sex in the City” by Lindsey Nicole Isham. Try those and let me know how it turns out!
Q.     How to become stronger while waiting on the LORD to bring you a husband/wife. Its hard for us, especially if youre older and have been out in the world for a while.
A.     Keep yourself busy. Study the word of God. Allow God to be that husband. Let him fill in the void. To be honest, not every one will marry. That’s the reality of things. So it’s best to look to God as the source for EVERYTHING you need. Tell Him “I will love you God, even if I never get married.