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The Jezebel Spirit

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Jezebel was married to Ahab who was king of Israel.  Jezebel manipulated her husband in many ways.  He began worshiping Baal, the god of nature and fertility, which was the same god that Jezebel worshiped.  Elijah advised the king that he had upset God and that God would cause a drought to come upon the land.   Ahab had killed many prophets at Jezebel’s command and caused the nation to be under a great famine.
When Elijah came back to show himself to Ahab they had a contest on the mountain to see who’s alter would light fire.  Ahab called on the name on Baal from morning until noon and the alter was not consumed.  Elijah set up the alter for the Lord God, he even filled the trench with water.  And when he called on the name of the Lord, fire fell from heaven and consumed the sacrifice and the water.  Elijah prayed to God for rain.  Later on the clouds became dark and heavy and it rained.
Jezebel had such a stronghold on Ahab that he told her about Elijah.  Jezebel sent a message telling Elijah that she was going to have him killed.  Jezebel also had a man named Naboth killed.  Her husband desired to have Naboth’s vineyard but Naboth was not willing to sell it.  So Jezebel sent a letter in Ahab’s name to the elders of the city where Naboth lived.  She commanded them to fast and then stone Naboth to death.  When Jezebel found out Naboth was dead she told her husband he can now take over the vineyard.  Elijah was sent back to Ahab by God to tell Ahab that “dogs would lick his blood”.  Ahab repented of his sins, but Ahab’s heart was not pure.  Ultimately Ahab was killed in battle and dogs did lick up his blood.
Jehu was appointed king over Israel.  Jehu went to Jezreel and Jezebel “painted her face”.  It was already prophesied that Jezebel would be eaten by dogs.  When Jehu entered the city Jezebel insulted him by calling him a murder.  Jehu had her thrown from the window and trampled over her while on horse back.  Later on he instructed some people to bury her but there was nothing left of her but her skull, feet and the palm of her hands.

The Jezebel spirit goes after weak people.  Ahab quickly told his wife about every problem.  She didn’t care if it caused some one to die just for herself or her husband to have their way.  The Jezebel spirit destroys lives.  This also proves how marriages can actually led to your demise.  Marriage is a union and if you unite with a man or woman who worships money, their careers, or even themselves, you are setting yourself up for failure.  Worshiping anything besides God will lead you down a dark path.  If you or some one you know is battling with this spirit, it stems from control.  Something may have happened to you to cause you think you always need control.  But trying to always control the things that happen in your life doesn’t mean that you will be happy.  True happiness is found only in Christ Jesus. If you are married to a Jezebel please know that by letting her run your household you are only feeding that spirit.  It’s time to step up and be the man who God has called you to be.  Pray for her deliverance.  Love her even when she pushes you away.  I promise God hears your prayers.  Your labor is not in a vain. Let go and let God.

I once heard this message Bishop TD Jakes spoke on that changed my total out look on marriage.  I can’t remember what he said word for word, so I’m going to just paraphrase and add things as the spirit leads.   Of course most of us are all familiar with the story of Adam and Eve.  God saw that Adam didn’t have a “suitable help meet”.  Genesis 2:21 “So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh.”  Genesis 2:22 “Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”.  Since God took the rib from Adam and created Eve, Adam and Eve share the same DNA.  I remember watching a Tyler Perry movie (I’ll talk about why I no longer watch his movies when he plays a woman) but Cicely Tyson was saying how she had laid her head on her husbands chest and his heart was beating at the same pace as hers.  Whether that statement be true or false, it still goes along with what I’m saying today, two people becoming one.  Not just soul ties but something much deeper.

For those men who are dating look for the characteristics that show you she is your missing rib.  God knows his creations.  He can count every hair on your head.  God has genetically matched you with some one.  That is so amazing to me.  After hearing that message, I realized the true importance of marriage.  It all made sense to me.  Often times the Bible uses marriage to explain the relationship between Jesus and the church.  Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”.  Did you see that “and gave himself up for her”.  Adam GAVE his rib, a part of himself.   Jesus GAVE His life.  That was revelation knowledge y’all LOL.  Here’s another scripture that speaks on oneness, Ephesians 5:28 “In this same way, husbands ought to love their own bodies.  He who loves his wife LOVES HIMSELF.”

I wrote all of this to say that marriage is more than rings, sex, and keeping the loneliness away.  Marriage is about exemplifying Christ’s love for the church.  Matthew 18:20 states “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst of them.”  Now take this scripture and think of it this way, you and your husband should be doing damage to the kingdom of darkness because the two of you should be gathered in His (Christ) name every day.   That’s why the enemy attacks marriages so much.  Marriage is serious,  and not to be taken lightly.   Before saying “I do” check your DNA.

SARAH: “Hey girl, I need your help.  I just lost my job and I know you have some connections.  Plus, my husband has gotten really abusive.  I need to get out of this situation, asap.”

SUZY:  “Okay, I’ll help you.  You know I got your back.”

SARAH:  “Thanks! I love you.”

SUZY:  “Love you too.”

Two months later.

SARAH:  “Hey girl, it’s me again.”

SUZY:  “I haven’t heard from you in a while.  Seems like you only call me when you need my help.”

SARAH:  “I know, I know.  I am so sorry for not taking your advice.  I went back to my husband.  I know you said that would be a bad idea.  But I was lonely.  Now it seems like he’s even worst.  Can you please buy me a plane ticket to get out of here?  I am tired of this.”

SUZY:  “Okay, I’ll help you.”

SARAH:  “Thank you SO much! I love you!”

SUZY:  “Love you too.”

6 months later.

SARAH:  “Hey girl, it’s me.”

SUZY:  “Hey.”

SARAH:  “I know it’s been a while.  I appreciate all that you do.  I know that I keep going back to the same problems.  I promise I won’t do it again.  This is getting crazier by the minute.  Can you help me?”

SUZY:  “Once I help you, you always go right back.”

SARAH:  “I know,  it won’t happen again.  I’m done!” [crying]  “I’m so sincere.”

SUZY:  “Okay.  I’ll help you.”

SARAH:  “Thank you! I love you!!”

SUZY:  “Love you too.”

How many of you would stop helping?   How many of you are thinking ‘Suzy is crazy.  Sarah keeps using her.  Obviously Sarah isn’t being honest’?  A lot of us go through this same scenario with God.  He delivers us out of certain situations and we go right back.  The Bible tells us in Matthew 12:43-45; 43 “When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. 44 Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. 45 Then it goes and takes with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first. That is how it will be with this wicked generation.” NIV.

When God delivers you from something, do not go back.  Each time you go back , it gets worst.  God has so much compassion for us that He will come to the rescue.  Even though He doesn’t come when we want Him, He’s always on time.  Human beings become irritated when some one only calls in times of trouble.  We’re quick to tell some one “I’m tired of you using me”.  Imagine if God told us “I’m tired of YOU using ME.”

I am usually asked the question about how to abstain until marriage.  Yes, I do want people to wait until they’re married to have sex but what do you do if you never get married?  Many people look ahead and think “If I could only make it until I get married!”.  This is the wrong way to go about things.  The goal should be to abstain.  The Bible says to “flee fornication” I Corinthians 6:18.  When or if you get married, you should be and feel complete.  When God made you, He made you a whole person.  He didn’t make you a half of a person.  Mark 10:8 “And they twain [two] shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain [two], but one flesh”.   Marriage takes two whole people and bring them together as one. Your husband or wife should add to you, not fill a void that God was supposed to be filling.  Be happy!  God made me complete, how about you? =]